How to write a heartfelt note
Whether it’s a Mother’s Day card, a condolence note, or simply a thank you email to someone who went out of their way for you, a written note is powerful.
As my children will confirm from years of post Christmas and birthday torture sessions, I am a firm believer in thank you notes. Yet, writing a heartfelt note is not my super power. It is a skill that eludes me (and maybe you too?). I have a mix of admiration and envy when I witness individuals who can effortlessly articulate their gratitude and love.
So, over the years I have had to make an effort to improve my skills in this area. What follows are some tips I’ve accumulated in my note writing tool kit that, even if they don’t truly capture the depth of my feelings, sure sound convincing!
#1 Google it!
When I am truly stuck, I google “prompts for writing a (fill in the blank) letter.” This may sound like a cop out but it really works! You will get lists and lists of prompts. Read through the prompts until something resonates for you. Then you have a place to start. Keeping it short and sweet is fine. Add a greeting and a closing and you are done. Even if it is technically plagiarism, a handwritten phrase on a card is somehow more powerful than the card manufacturer’s printed phrase.
#2 Share a memory
This is especially powerful with condolence notes. The family may not know of this memory or not from your perspective. It will enable them to see that their loved one was cherished by others.
#3 Relay how you will use the gift
For thank you notes, specifically, a sentence or two about what you plan to do with the gift will yield a very happy gift giver. In the case of the gifts that are a miss (for example, that sweater that you can’t get to the Goodwill fast enough), you may have to resort to a white lie. “I’m going to wear this the first cold day we have!” You may only wear it in the house and only once but this small gesture of a note will brighten the gift giver’s day.
#4 Lastly…
- It’s never too late. A late note is always better than no note at all.
- Handwritten notes are warmer and more personal.
- For children, a drawing or picture truly does speak a thousand words.
- And,
Your note will put a smile on a face!
In the end, isn’t this what it’s truly about? Making a positive difference in the life of another. Putting a smile on their face. Or, as I often reminded my children, ensuring you get another gift next year!
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RESOURCES
- 8 Tips to Writing a quick but meaningful letter – Live Beautiful website
- Sending Cards and Letters: Our Best Advice and Ideas – Hallmark Ideas and Inspiration blog
- Complete Guide to Writing Thank You Notes – Emily Post
- How to Write a Condolence Letter or Sympathy Note – Very Well Health
Joanne Bedwell, PT is the Resident Blogger at Be Active Be Well. She lives and works in San Francisco with her husband and two (almost) grown daughters. Having over 25 years of experience as a PT, she sees clients in their homes and teaches fitness classes in person and virtually.
